Dear Dr. Linda,
I’ve been a third-grade teacher for over 20 years and have never allowed my students to celebrate Valentine’s Day in my class. I know my colleagues think I’m mean, but I’m refusing to celebrate it for many reasons. 1. Children hand out cards to each other and there’s always some child left out or gets very few. 2. Children are always asked to write a Valentine Card during class for their mother and father. My mother and father died when I was young so every year creating those cards was like torture for me. 3. It’s a day of make believe “love.” If you want to share the day with a loved one, it doesn’t have to be broadcast all over. All that does is make the person who doesn’t get the card or box of candy feel bad. 4. I’m not wasting an entire day on this silly holiday. A good friend of mine thinks I’m 100% wrong. What’s your opinion?
I do understand where you’re coming from. Holidays can be a sad and stressful time for many people, especially if they have just lost a loved one or are separated from loved ones. It’s obviously a sad day for you. But, the children in your class aren’t coming from your point of view. For the most part, children like parties, and if they know that their friends in other classes are having a Valentine Party and getting cards and probably cupcakes and candy—and they’re not—that’s sad too. [Read more…]